"Finally, A Step-by-Step Program That Shows You How To Forgive Your Partner, Move Past Your Pain And Begin To Trust Again"

Friday 9:00 am ET
Baltimore, MD
From the desk of Frank Gunzburg, PhD

Every week, I receive hundreds of emails from those hurting in their relationship, asking the question...

"How Can I Forgive After They
Hurt Me So Badly?"

"...do I have to forget in order to forgive?"

"...what if I can’t forget?"

"...what if I can’t forgive?"

Unfortunately these questions are only the beginning when you are in a situation where your spouse or partner, the person that you love and trust most in the whole world, has done something so painful, so unbearable, so horrendous that you wonder how you can ever forgive him or her and move on with your relationship.

The sense of betrayal you feel right now is so profound that you feel like you are drowning in a whirlpool of anger, grief, shame, and frustration. You struggle to swim free, but then something comes up to remind you of the transgression and you are pulled down into the vortex again.

When you are drowning in your emotions like this, the very idea that forgiveness is possible is almost beyond comprehension. It may seem to you right now that if there is any light at all at the end of this tunnel, it’s probably a train, so you better just get ready for more hurt and pain.

If you are reading this, then I am guessing you are in this situation right now. Sucked down into a vortex of emotions you can’t control you have begun to wonder if the pain you feel right now will ever end.

You are telling yourself, “I want to move on with my relationship. I want to move past this pain and be happy again the way we once were. But how can I ever forgive him? I just don’t know how to forgive...”

Maybe you are even beginning to wonder if forgiveness is possible. Maybe it’s just one of those myths we learn about growing up. Like Santa Claus and the Tooth Fairy, forgiveness may be an elusive dream we are taught as children to make our lives a little more comfortable for a while. But in the end ... it turns out not to be real.

I am here to tell you that forgiveness is real. It is possible. And it is something you can achieve. In fact...

You Can Learn How To Move Toward Forgiveness In A Practical, Real-World, Step-By-Step Way If You Choose To

And that’s what I am going to teach you...

It’s not magic, it’s not a bag of tricks, it is the same method that I have been using in my office counseling couples for close to 30 years.

I am going to lead you down a path that will show you a system for forgiving your spouse (and receiving forgiveness) and moving on with your relationship no matter what problem you are facing right now.

I am going to show you the steps you need to take to begin to overcome the pain you currently struggle with.

You can move past the pain you are suffering from, and you can come to a place where you forgive your spouse. But the path that takes you there is a little bit elusive. Forgiveness, the way that I am going to talk about it, probably isn’t quite what you'd expect it to be.

My definition of forgiveness and my techniques for getting there probably aren’t the ones you have been taught growing up.

Why?  Because the “forgive and forget” idea that many people throw around simply doesn’t work.

How Can You Really Forget?

It’s not only impossible, it’s unrealistic.  You can’t simply turn off that part of your brain.

You may be able to mask the pain, or find something to preoccupy yourself from the pain, but what will happen when something pops up to remind you of it.

• An image...
• A disrespectful comment...
• Coming home late without a valid reason...
• Unexplainable receipts...
• Another cold shoulder and evening without any intimacy...
• Another lie...

Here’s How You Can Forgive And Work Through The Issues Of The Past Without Masking Them

After counseling couples for over 30 years, learning how to forgive and work through the issues of the past has become a big topic for me.  It’s the focus for most of my couples in counseling.

As a matter of fact I just surveyed my newsletter list (with 65,000 active subscribers) and 23.9% said that they wanted a step-by-step solution for learning how to forgive their spouse (and how to be forgiven).

That’s why I spent the last 4 months outlining a program that identifies how you and your partner can learn to forgive and work through the issues of the past.

There are three major components to my system.

Download right to your computer in less than 5 minutes.

Component # 1: How to Forgive and Work Through The Past Inside I will outline for you… How you can get rid of the anger and resentment that keeps you up all night long (without letting the other person off the hook.) How to get your spouse to see things from your point of view without lashing out in revenge. (This 5-step communication process will help your spouse feel your pain.) How to tell your spouse what they did wrong without stepping on a land mine and killing you both. How to get your spouse to open up to you when they are stone cold. How to get rid of the images that haunt you and experience freedom from your condemning emotions. (This exercise will allow you to alter mind-numbing images and immediately release yourself from their control.) How to end obsessive thinking. (You’ll start living life again without walking around emotionally crippled.) The single best way to ensure the offense will never happen again. (Even though there are never sure things, this is the single best way I’ve seen to protect a relationship.) How to draw your spouse out and encourage them to talk. (Helping your spouse communicate their pain is the first step in helping them truly let go of their bitterness, resentment and anger.)

As a matter of fact, this new program covers only the subject of forgiveness, and nothing more.

After writing 2 books, Saving Your Marriage and Surviving An Affair, I realized I needed to continue to write programs that drill down into specific relationship problems and provide realistic solutions… not theory (like most relationship programs).

That is why I created this new program that outlines…

My 5-step Approach to Forgiving Your Spouse

I’m not going to give you a line and say that forgiveness will be easy.  If it were, then people wouldn’t be divorcing at an alarming rate.

Eventually it will take 2 people to make it work.  However, until your partner is ready, there are a few things that you can do to begin the process. 

For example, you can begin by learning how to deal with the images that won’t seem to go away and the obsessive thoughts that keep you awake at night.

This is a starting point, and two distinct topics I will cover.

Occasionally once an individual starts on themselves, they sometimes find a more willing partner because the partner starts to identify a change in you.

After that happens, I will show you my 5-step method for communicating your pain and show you both how to work through each issue until you have resolution.

As you go through my manual, you can also listen to my recorded interview where I answer the following questions.

The main course and the audio file will take you through the 5 fundamental forgiveness principles.

After you understand the main principles, that’s when I will show you how to personalize the information and work through the issues.  This program in not just another book to read…

It’s A Personalized System That Will
Show You How To Heal

Component # 3: How to Walk In Daily Forgiveness Without Being Forever Tormented This step-by-step companion guide will help you personalize the system according to your needs and empower you to take charge instead of just sitting helpless. These exercises and techniques will help you move to a place where the horrible offense your partner committed moves to the back of your mind.  Your emotions about it will subside or disappear altogether and the incident will no longer torment you the way it currently does. These exercises will also help you communicate in a deeper and more complete way, the pain your spouse caused you, overcome the images of the offense and help to eliminate the obsessive thoughts. (Even if you've been living with the pain for 40 years.)

After you go through my program, you will understand the right way to communicate about the issues instead of the ways that only lead to more arguing. 

Your quest for true forgiveness will be a journey.  It’s not going to happen immediately.  However, it can happen.  Whether it’s days, weeks or months is up to you.

The love you once felt, the trust you once had, can come back.  Remember this one principle…

If You Were Once In Love, That Love Can Return And Your Relationship Can Be Better Than Ever

But you need the building blocks to get you there.

Here’s what to do now:

My entire program with all three forgiveness components is available immediately.  You can download all three components right to your computer and get started within 3 to 10 minutes (depending on your internet connection).

Just order (only $39.95), read How to Forgive and Work Through the Past, listen to the audio interview (a littler over an hour), and then begin using the companion workbook to work through your specific issues.

This kind of information is the same program that I spend dozens of hours working through with my couples.  As a matter of fact, it took me close to 4 months to document this entire method.

If you were to sit in my office (my rate is $200 per hour) it would probably take us 3 to 6 hours to work through this information. You can do the math. That is why I put together this program and made it affordable for anyone.

And as always, I don’t want you to feel pressured in any way.  That is why I always offer a 100% guarantee.

I know that if you knew for sure that the answer was in this program you'd want to have it. That's why I want you to have a chance to go through it before you decide if you'll keep it.

How to Forgive and Work Through the Past comes with a 100% Money Back Guarantee. Read the manual, listen to the audio file and go through the companion workbook from cover to cover and try the strategies risk free.

If the strategies and information in the book aren't helpful to you -- I'll cheerfully refund your money, and you can keep the entire program.

Just click on the link below to order your program safely with my secure order form.

Click Here to Order Now

I can help you.  But you’ve go to take the first step.

I have over 30 years of marriage counseling experience.  I have helped thousands of couples even when they thought their situation was hopeless.

The main difference between those who survived and those who didn’t was that the successful relationships took constructive action right away.

Remember, everything you do right now in your relationship is either helpful or harmful.  You can choose to make things better or worse.

How to Forgive and Work through the Past will give you specific step-by-step strategies you need to save your relationship and start over.

I look forward to hearing from you today.

All the Best,

Frank Gunzburg, PhD
Baltimore, MD

P.S. Remember, before you start the forgiveness process, I will take you by the hand and show you how to eliminate the images from your mind and cut out the obsessive thoughts that keep you awake at night.

P.P.S. If you've lost hope that you and your partner can ever fall in love again, remember this one point. If you were once in love, you can fall in love again, BUT you need to first fix what is broken. My new program, with all three components, will help you work through the forgiveness process and heal the pain from the past.

P.P.P.S If you have questions about my program before you order, please see my Frequently Asked Questions page. Here I will answer the majority of the questions you may have about this new program.

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